A handy create-your-own-scenario list of advised items, also grouped by category.
Lame: flowers, fancy dinners, handwritten notes, Hallmark cards, chocolate, bubble baths
Tame: chocolate body paint, oysters, veal, light bondage (i.e. silk scarves and bedposts), sex in a hot tub or swimming pool, candles, the kama sutra, watching pornographic videos
Mild: medium bondage (i.e. steamer trunks, leather shackles, gags and blindfolds, hot wax), roleplay in public, sex with strangers (protected), sex out of doors, creatively styled pubic hair, threesomes, watching hentai videos
Wild: extreme bondage and domination (e.g. full gear, St. Andrew’s Cross, riding crop, medieval weaponry and torture equipment, no safe words), sex with strangers (unprotected), sex out of doors in a public place (perhaps somewhere dangerous), orgies (no less than six active participants), his-and-hers electrolysis, bug-chasing, making pornography
